Dating after my husbands death
I didn’t really feel ready to date until I had worked through the pain and feeling of loss.” “The best advice I have here is to ask the widowed person, “How can I be there for you?
” Realize that at some points the widowed person might need space, and don’t take that personally.
How long does a widow/widower typically wait to start dating again? I was lonely for several years before my husband died.
I would have been dating again within a year if I had not been in a car accident that put me out of action for 9 months.
If the person truly is ready to begin again with someone new they will make room for you in their heart.
How can I help a widow/widower get through their pain and feelings of loss?
Annother: “I don’t think that a date is the best person to do this.
For me, it was 18 months before I considered dating again.
It is one thing to be supportive and allow space for the feelings and ebbs and flows of emotion which diminish over time, but I don’t think a person should be the widow/widower’s grief counselor.” Most people who’ve suffered a loss have already built a network of friends and/or family for support.
Many will choose to attend therapy or support groups for help dealing with their pain. When you are dating someone it should be about you and that person having a shared goal of creating a great relationship.
I don’t expect a woman I am dating, or even more seriously involved with, to “help me get through my pain and loss”, as it relates to my late wife’s passing.
I should have done that prior to entering the relationship. By the time a widow/widower enters the dating world, they should already be through the initial stages of grief and into the recovery phase of rebuilding their lives.